A lot of people have worries and fears about sex. Will I be good enough? Does my partner think I’m attractive? What if they think what I like is weird? And the more we worry about sex, the more likely we are to have problems, if only because we can’t let go and enjoy...
…Or make love, have sex, do the horizontal mambo, knock boots, boink or any number of euphemisms. I often hear people (usually guys) fret about gauging consent and desire so I decided to make a handy little guide. Kissing isn’t Consent Really, there is only one sure sign of consent: Saying “I want to...
Let us first honor those persons whose works have paved the way. Beau Brummell (with whom I share a birthday!) is credited with introducing the modern suit, worn with a tie, as the foundation of Men’s fashion in the early 1800s. Oscar Wilde, Lord Byron, and Quentin Crisp, all known for being paragons of...
San Francisco is full of Sex Positive organizations, working diligently towards cultural change, dedicating their lives to creating the kind of world you want to live in. This month I am encouraging you all to support your favorite Sex Positive group by donating time, money or energy to a worthy cause. Not only do...
Get it while it's hot.... Issue #6!
In this Issue:
Dr. Melanie Rose - Find Your Voice
Jessi Fischer - How to Tell if Someone Wants to F**k You
Barron Scott Levkoff - Professor Dandy's Dressing the Part, Part...
When a lot of people hear the words “sex toys”, vibrators are the first thing they think of. And no wonder — these gizmos can be lots of fun, either on their own or mixed with other pleasures. A majority of women (some studies say as many as 70%) report that they need some...
Different people have different opinions about condoms for blowjobs and dental dams for eating pussy. On the one hand, oral sex is lower risk than many other kinds of sex, especially if you don’t swallow. But if you go down on that hottie and then kiss someone else, you may unknowingly bring something along. And...
I was very timid when I was in my 20s. I didn’t make a peep during sex, and I didn’t enjoy it much. Yet I continued to have sex hoping something would change, that maybe with time or another partner, the magic switch would flip and I would suddenly get to have what they...
Oh, L’amour! February has long been known as a time for romance and friskiness, as it happens around the time when nature starts to recover from the frosty grip of winter and get all randy, with butterflies poking their long tongues in the sticky sap of flowers… What we now know as innocent, sweet...
Ring in the New Year with.... Issue #5!
In this Issue:
Carol Queen - Frisky History: The Sexual Freedom League
Dr. Melanie Rose - Easy Ecstasy
Marcia Baczynski - Dear Marcia
Barron Scott Levkoff - Professor Dandy's Dressing the...
Taoist and Tantric sexual teachings have swirled in and out my life for years, brought by various lovers, books, and teachers. I have embraced some of the beliefs and discarded others. I was not impressed by the lover who, after reading Mantak Chia, suggested I swallow because of semen’s supposed nutritional value. I think...