No Glove to Love

November 3, 2010

There are lots of reasons why people like group sex. It can be fun to feel lots of people at the same time. It can be hot to watch or be watched, even if you don’t want to have sex with anyone other than your date. It can be a great way to play with someone new, especially when you don’t have to pretend to be interested in anything beyond sex. Of course, you need to know how to manage safer sex in those situations.

The first thing to consider is what you want to do BEFORE you go to the party. What sexual activities are you comfortable with? What would you do with a stranger? What would you do with a friend? If you’re going with someone, what do you want to do with them? Thinking things out beforehand can make it easier to avoid the frozen “what do I do now?” moments that can mess with your groove. Of course, you can always change your mind. But the point is to think about what adventures you might want to get up to so you can plan your safer sex strategies.

There are different approaches to safer sex negotiation. Some people make assumptions without talking about it (note: that this is not really smart, or “safer”), other folks will chat with a new partner first (note: even this gives you no guarantees), or some just assume that it’s a possibility that anyone can have an STI and use barriers with everyone.

If you’re at a party, ask the hosts what the safe sex rules are. Some events require condoms, even between fluid-bonded partners. Others leave it up to the individuals in each situation. Make sure you know: getting kicked out for breaking the rules is no fun.

Bring LOTS of supplies. Bring more condoms and gloves and lube than you think you’ll need. One reason is that you’ll want to change them a lot. After sitting around on the pillows that have likely had other people fucking on them, don’t assume that your hands are clean anymore. Put on a glove and you’re good to go! Change gloves or condoms if you go from one person to another or if you go from ass to pussy play. If you take a break or want to hug someone who just walked in, remember to take your gloves off. Put on new gloves when you’re ready to go again.

If you want to go from ass to pussy or from one partner to another, you can use the Female Condom. Since it’s inserted into the ass or vagina, you can switch things up without bringing any bacteria or STIs along for the ride.

Some people resist or resent safer sex, but when it comes down to it, it’s not all that difficult nor does it kill the pleasure. Practice! That helps smooth things. Plus, after you’ve had a few amazing experiences with gloves, the sound of latex snapping against someone’s wrist can become a major turn-on. So give it a try and have lots of fun!

If you’re looking for more safer sex tips or supplies, we’ve got lots of them at Good Vibrations (


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