Ever notice how easy it is to get into a rut when you’re rubbing one off? I’d like to have a little chat about conscious masturbation and how it can affect the rest of your life. There are all kinds of reasons we don’t take the time to really love ourselves up as well...
I was very timid when I was in my 20s. I didn’t make a peep during sex, and I didn’t enjoy it much. Yet I continued to have sex hoping something would change, that maybe with time or another partner, the magic switch would flip and I would suddenly get to have what they...
Taoist and Tantric sexual teachings have swirled in and out my life for years, brought by various lovers, books, and teachers. I have embraced some of the beliefs and discarded others. I was not impressed by the lover who, after reading Mantak Chia, suggested I swallow because of semen’s supposed nutritional value. I think...
Last issue, I introduced the idea of sexual shame and how it can rear its ugly head within you. But sexual shame is not only something we feel, it’s also something we enforce. You may not even realize the subtle statements you make about another’s sexuality are shaming. These statements often carry not only...
Shame about sex is what keeps sexy people hidden. When we reveal our distinctively sexy selves, and outrageously flaunt our sexuality, we are rebelling against shame. Rebellion is an integral step on the road to freedom but it doesn’t exorcize all the ghosts. We must also understand how shame works and how to unravel...
I’m all for technology that en-hances my life, but I’m not an early adopter. My boyfriend, however, loves the newest tech things. So when the new iPhone was coming out, he oohed and ahhed long enough that I was finally seduced and we both pre-ordered. It is pretty nice, but I’m most excited about...