There are lots of reasons why people like group sex. It can be fun to feel lots of people at the same time. It can be hot to watch or be watched, even if you don’t want to have sex with anyone other than your date. It can be a great way to play...
There are lots of reasons why people like group sex. It can be fun to feel lots of people at the same time. It can be hot to watch or be watched, even if you don’t want to have sex with anyone other than your date. It can be a great way to play...
Dear Rita Is it OK for a woman to be addicted to sex? If a male Galapagos tortoise, who fucks once a year, had a relationship with a female Bonobo chimp, who fucks once a minute, he’d make her feel like a sex crazed nut. It’s all relative. Get yourself another Bonobo. Dear Rita...
Although particulars vary by event, in general there are a few things you should expect. First: There will be people there in various states of undress, perhaps having sex, maybe making out, or dancing. It is, after all, a sex party. Second: There is usually a social area separate from the “play” area, where...
Lots of people enjoy exploring the Hershey Highway*. Your winker* is full of incredibly sensitive nerve endings which can bring amazing pleasure. It can tap into the sense being naughty and playing with taboos. Since the chocolate starfish* contracts along with the rest of the pelvic floor during orgasm, it can add to the...
Last issue, I introduced the idea of sexual shame and how it can rear its ugly head within you. But sexual shame is not only something we feel, it’s also something we enforce. You may not even realize the subtle statements you make about another’s sexuality are shaming. These statements often carry not only...
“Hanging out” is what you do when you want to keep all options open, including friendship, romance, intimacy, late-night bootie calls, and the possibility of hooking up with his/her housemate, without ever having to meet anybody’s parents. “Dating”, on the other hand, is getting to know someone, usually with romance as the implication, and...
Shame about sex is what keeps sexy people hidden. When we reveal our distinctively sexy selves, and outrageously flaunt our sexuality, we are rebelling against shame. Rebellion is an integral step on the road to freedom but it doesn’t exorcize all the ghosts. We must also understand how shame works and how to unravel...
Lube is, simply, one of the easiest and most cost-effective ways to improve your sex life. I’m always amazed when people resist buying a $15 or $20 bottle, especially after they’ve spent a lot more on dinner, drinks, movie tickets, babysitters, makeup, clothes, or any of the other things we buy in order to...
Often when both people in a couple want to open up a relationship, but friction develops, it’s because one or both parties is afraid of not getting basic needs met. Take some time to talk about your fears… and more importantly, listen to your partner’s fears. They may not be rational, or even about your...